Have you even been in a situation where you meet someone that ticks all your boxes, and you felt like it's all you ever wanted, only for you to realise that you don't actually tick all the person's boxes.

More like who you think is the love of your life has another love of their life.

Trust me that can be very painful and exhausting, because most times it makes you question your worth and standards, and then it eventually feels like maybe there's something you're doing wrong.

When in retrospect, you're not the problem, just that the person you feel very strongly for doesn't feel as strong as you feel, and if care Is not taken, you might actually get stucked and used if the person in the picture is a bad person.

Now when you do eventually try to move on, I mean you realise that the person you like doesn't like you the way you like them, it becomes very hard and almost impossible for you to find someone to fill the void they left.

Then you try out a relationship with another person, and try to use they to either fill the void or spite the person.

Fortunately or unfortunately, the person happens to like you a lot, but the feeling isn't reciprocated, more like the person isn't enough.

Then the cycle continues like that.

If you end up marrying someone who has this kind of void, then chances that the marriage will last are slim and limited, because firstly, there will always be need for more and it will likely end up as a one sided thingy.

The way out of this is very limited, if you're lucky, the person you feel so strongly for might, emphasis on MIGHT eventually come around later on and you guys eventually end up together.

If that is not the case, then you first have to go on and live your life, try to find your own happiness and fulfilment, mingle with more people, who knows, you might actually meet someone better and more interesting in your adventure.

Most of the time, life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you want.

Eventually you settle for what life offers you, but if you're brave enough, you can actually gun for what you really want and not what life offers you, even at that you need to realize that you can't make or force someone to feel strong for you, you can only try.

So my advice here is to make sure the relationship is defined before things get too far, so if interest don't align, cutting losses and going separate ways won't be that difficult and painful.

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